America and Sexual Harassment

by - December 20, 2017

                                          Photo by Courtney Hedger on Unsplash                                              

 Are American Values To Blame For the Violation of Women

    According to the U.S. Equal Opportunity Commission, it is:

Unlawful to harass a person (an applicant or employee) because of that person’s sex. Harassment can include “sexual harassment” or unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature.
Harassment does not have to be of a sexual nature, however, and can include offensive remarks about a person’s sex. For example, it is illegal to harass a woman by making offensive comments about women in general.
Both victim and the harasser can be either a woman or a man, and the victim and harasser can be the same sex.
Although the law doesn’t prohibit simple teasing, offhand comments, or isolated incidents that are not very serious, harassment is illegal when it is so frequent or severe that it creates a hostile or offensive work environment or when it results in an adverse employment decision (such as the victim being fired or demoted).
The harasser can be the victim's supervisor, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or someone who is not an employee of the employer, such as a client or customer.
Now, with the recent explosion of complaints concerning various A-listers in Hollywood and in the corporate world, we are left to assume that these people are victims in their own right, correct? Surely, this kind of media attention at this age of the world can only mean that we have come very far from our foundational values as a people. Hence, we must examine how American values are to blame for the violation of women.

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Well, think back to the foundation of America, surely there weren't any women in the executive branch, not even the judicial or legislative branches. In fact, women were at home caring for children, keeping the house, or giving orders to their maidservants. Colonial women and their subordinates were in the fields farming, tending to the sick during times of war, and on a continuous basis catching babies straight out the womb. Women did things only women were gender assigned to do. So we see how centuries later after much strife, adversity, and marches, women now let out of the bag and unfortunately run straight into another bag of corruption and prejudice. If we're honest women barely stand a chance in the workforce. They are still treated like the maid, belly warmers, and mammies even if they traded in their colonial garbs for pencil skirts. 
Women are still seen as subordinates, less than and far less competent to lead in areas of government, education, finance, and even the good old church house. 
So, the question remains, why have women been given their intuitive gifts, foresight, strength, and natural teaching ability if only to be kept behind doors, and even sheets that only show their intellect to a chosen few. How can men boast of themselves when it is a woman who taught them and even encouraged them to seek higher aspirations and offices in the land of the free, home of the brave? How can men boast of themselves when it was a woman who dried their tears, held their hands as they took their first step, and counseled them when they had their heart broken by another woman? Who schooled them and prepared them for the real world, a world where it is truly a strength to cry out loud, feel every now and again, and to express one's feelings without becoming so heated that all sense of self is lost and human compassion is gone? It is women who bare men, who walk in front, beside, and behind them. Hence, women are equally as qualified to lead, speak, govern, and intercede on behalf of mankind. Women and men are expected to work together for the good of all. This means yielding to one another at times and still respecting the roles each one plays in causing the bigger picture to frame our hearts and minds so that we can walk in victory no matter the race, creed, culture, nationality, or social status.
If you doubt this view, read here: Explore Abraham Lincoln's relationships with the mother and stepmother who both nurtured him as a child and set him on the pathway to the White House. 
Have you ever heard the adage, "Behind Every Great Man is a Great Woman?" I'm sure you have! There are countless stories in history and in almost every American family where the mother, grandmother, step-mother, aunt, nanny, or mammie, greatly influenced the course of many famous world changers and every noble human vessel. 
What has become of America as a nation under God? What about the values that honor, protect and inspire women to continue the charge to train leaders of tomorrow? A society that does not care for its women, children, and elderly can never prosper and have a standard to follow. This is why we are hearing journalists saying things like, "We are trying to find right and wrong in all of these sexual harassment suits and claims." How can we say as grown people that we are trying to figure out right from wrong? So are we saying that sexual harassment in any shape or form is okay? Is it okay to only squeal on some and not all? Does race play a factor here? Is it only okay to call out Bill Cosby and not Matt Lauer?

Does it matter who? The issue is, why did these victims think that they had to remain quiet so long, or not feel the least responsible to speak up sooner? Did they not think that the longer they remained quiet someone else was at risk? Were they that selfish, and afraid to lose their jobs if they simply told the truth? Was it that dangerous to speak up for fear of death? What could a person gain from enabling acts of violence, which has traumatic and long-lasting effects? We have to face the painful truth, we are a society of enablers. Perhaps, on one hand, we can say that yes, these women and even men are victims and did not ask to be sexually assaulted, but clearly, on the other hand, we are aware that if no one speaks up the evil will spread like cancer, wildfire and eventually cause a catastrophic wave of sexual promiscuity, fornication, adultery, perversion, and extortion. This is what we have now. 

So the matter at hand is not only the outings, and the plans to wear black at award shows that were pioneered by the same scum that lingers, it the fact that we somehow find a way to only give light to the evil, and not ever extinguish it. We find ways to avoid the extermination part and yet accept that these things are normal and no one is accountable. After making obscene amounts of money, and to only casually step down after being busted with pants down, what lesson do we want these perpetrators to learn? Are they even remorseful? Most of them if not all sound so prideful and inhumane. They act like they are the victims, and in some respects are indeed victims, victims of a depraved heart and mind. How do we move forward? Will laws be put in place to protect those sexually harassed? Will the true victims of sexual harassment be given their just due, and the protection they deserve so that they can come forward? How do we as a nation, face one another without pointing fingers, and be mature enough to show our children that this behavior is not okay? 

Let us not forget that these occurrences are in our schools as well. Look at all of the increased incidences of hazing on college campuses, which sadly have lead to so many deaths. When will America stand up for women and all victims of sexual harassment, bullying, and abuse of power? Are our American values to blame for the violation of women? The caption on the photo below says it all! Women are the center of our core values because women are the first teacher of the child. To not protect women is like unto signing an executive order for a genocide. This matter is far beyond any political realm. We must think, speak, and act responsibly as a people and nation.

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Article Written By:

Crystal E. Melville, M.A. CPC
Author and Life Coach

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